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Puppy-Dog Philanderer’s: Cheating & Relationships: Part 3

I’ve been getting some emails, as well as being asked by some friends, about cheating concerns… rather than rewrite about topics I’ve already covered, I figured reintroducing you all to my three part series on cheating and relationships might be just the thing to do in this situation. So enjoy y’all, I hope for those of you with questions it’ll help give your situation some clarity. For some of your more specific questions that aren’t answered by this series, stay tuned for the follow up… part 4 of this series coming soon to a Classic Ruby post near you!

Classic Ruby: Unadulterated

So, you’re in a great relationship. Your mate treats you very well, you get along great and share everything with each other, have passed that 3 year mark and are even talking about moving in with one another/getting married/having kids/__________(insert taking it to the next level example here), and then BAM!, without warning you find that your mate is spending more and more time online chatting, spending more time with a friend or co-worker, or arranging to see that play they really were dying to see with someone special-with someone else. You, being the fully secure, rational human being

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Self Confidence

Your pathetic attempt at appearing self-assured is a waste of time. Not only is it not working, but nobody really cares. Try being authentic for a change. Try ACTUALLY believing in yourself for once. Spend more time loving you instead of pretending you’re loveable.

The thing about self confidence is, if you don’t have it, no matter how hard you try you just can’t fake it. Sure, you can pretend to be the self confident diva or dude, walk around with your head up, shoulders back and attempt to radiate “I believe in ME” vibes. But more often than not your false confidence will come off as cocky at best. Or lame, like you’re trying waaaayyyy too hard. At worst you come off as (more…)

Puppy-Dog Philanderer's: Cheating & Relationships: Part 3

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Pretty valid (although I've come up against more reasons that just this). Sounds pretty petty when you put it this bluntly huh?

So, you’re in a great relationship. Your mate treats you very well, you get along great and share everything with each other, have passed that 3 year mark and are even talking about moving in with one another/getting married/having kids/__________(insert taking it to the next level example here), and then BAM!, without warning you find that your mate is spending more and more time online chatting, spending more time with a friend or co-worker, or arranging to see that play they really were dying to see with someone special-with someone else. You, being the fully secure, rational human being (more…)

Amateur Detectivism (Cheating & Relationships: Part 1)

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The longer I am alive, the more I realize that honesty and openness are not traits that come very naturally to most people, especially when it comes to relationships. After a conversation I had yesterday with yet another friend about their mates relatively obvious deceptive behaviour, I decided it was high time to explore this concept in much more detail.

What often sparks worry in someone that their mate is being less than honest normally isn’t something huge. With the passage of time, as people get more comfortable in relationships, they aren’t as driven to call each other every five seconds, or to spend every free second together. Once their (more…)