Your pathetic attempt at appearing self-assured is a waste of time. Not only is it not working, but nobody really cares. Try being authentic for a change. Try ACTUALLY believing in yourself for once. Spend more time loving you instead of pretending you’re loveable.
The thing about self confidence is, if you don’t have it, no matter how hard you try you just can’t fake it. Sure, you can pretend to be the self confident diva or dude, walk around with your head up, shoulders back and attempt to radiate “I believe in ME” vibes. But more often than not your false confidence will come off as cocky at best. Or lame, like you’re trying waaaayyyy too hard. At worst you come off as a self-righteous asshole who nobody can stand being around. Because the thing is, self-confidence is something that you have within you, something that you have to feel, to believe. And what the confidence fakers don’t seem to realize is that even when they aren’t putting on their little false bravado, their glaringly pathetic levels of self confidence come out in some pretty obvious ways.
Please don’t make your lack of self confidence my problem. Seriously, I don’t want your man. I just believe in myself. Maybe you should try it
Do you know, or are you, a person who always assumes your significant other is cheating on you? Do you assume when they have a member of the opposite (or same, depending on their flavor) sex as a friend that there’s gotta be something going on between them? Ever assume that some woman or man is after your lover simply because they’re attractive, make direct eye contact…generally are what you wanna deem as “full of themselves”? Surprise! Not only is this a key indicator that your confidence in yourself sucks large, but the object of your envy is absolutely BRIMMING with self-confidence. Probably why you feel they’re such a threat to begin with. It’s hard for you not to feel some type of jealousy for people who have something you don’t, and when it comes to this trait it’s hard not to see how attractive an abundance of it can make someone seem.
Look in the mirror and find one thing you like. When someone gives you a compliment, actually try accepting it for once. Try loving yourself. 100%. For all that you are and all that you’re not. It’s OK to be you. In fact, it’s FANTASTIC to be you. Now, just believe it.
OK, so give yourself a good shake, maybe even a slap in the face, and then remind yourself that problem is you, not your imagined competition. Honestly, even if that person is out to get your lover, if you believe in you, have confidence in yourself, your relationship, and your SO, and don’t give them and their ploys the time of day, neither will your SO. But first you gotta find that inner light, that thing that gives you your ‘it’ factor, and hold on tight to it. And as hard as it might seem, it’s actually a lot more simple than you’ve been making it out to be (obviously, otherwise you would have seized your inner confidence long ago, right?). Just figure out what it is that you like about yourself, inside and out. Then glorify it. Concentrate on it, let it be the driving force behind everything that you do. When you walk around, think about your perfect smile, cute buns, hilarious sense of humour and pretend that it’s something written all over your face. You’ll start to realize that more often than not it IS written all over you. You just never noticed.
Just a lil’ somethin’ somethin’ to think about before you start off your awesome (hopefully) weekend.
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YOU ARE RIGHT RUBY. MUCH OF SOCIETY ARE PRETENDERS. TAKE A MOMENT TO PONDER THE ARCHTYPE AND DESIGN OF THE INNER MIND AND SEE THE PROGRAMS INFLICTED FROM BIRTH. WE WEAR THE MASKS OF ROLEMODELS, BIG BROTHERS AND SISTERS ETC. ETC. ALL UNDER THE SUPERVISION OF THAT INNER VOICE IN YOUR HEAD. IT TELLS US RIGHT FROM WRONG. BUT FOR WHO? SOCIETY OR YOU. FALSE CONFIDENCE CAN BE SHATTERED WHEN STRIPPED OF YOUR COSTUMES. LEFT NAKED AND VULNERABLE BY THOSE ABLE TO SEE THE REAL YOU. YOUR ACTIONS ARE OF FEAR. FEAR IN REALIZING YOUR DESIRES, GOALS AND DREAMS MAY HAVE BEEN SOMEONE ELSE. AFTER ALL THE MIND IS A SPONGE THAT SOAKS UP EVERY THING IT EXPERIENCES. REDEFINE YOU OUTSIDE OF CHILDHOOD PROGRAMMING AND RIGID LAWS OF ADULT LIFE. WHEN THE REAL YOU SHINES IT WILL BE WITH CONFIDENCE
That was very seriously deep. And true. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I love that you defined the ‘real you’ and that when you can attain that, you will naturally shine with confidence, because there are so many people in this world who are trying so desperately to be someone else and don’t realize that that is more than half of all of their problems to begin with.
Thanks for your comment, I hope to see more commentary from you 🙂