Before I say anything else, let me start off by saying I’m all for Human Rights, as a whole, be it women’s rights, rights for minorities, rights for those with alternate genders, sexualities, religious beliefs, and just about anything that involves the betterment of human kind that does not involve harming or infringing on the rights or well being of others. But that doesn’t mean I’m not allowed to have opinions, nor does believing in everyone having equal rights mean that in some way either I must think exactly anything relating to that group of people and what they do should be not only legal, not only socially acceptable, but should in fact be glorified as the only way to live, and curse those who may think otherwise.
Especially when those thoughts being in conflict would in no way, shape or form harm anyone on any level. And really, it pisses me off to no end that these extremely uninformed, wannabe special, bored losers bastardize a cause to win an argument, to feel superior, or to try and falsely support their unreasonable outrage in a way they feel will somehow end the discussion because they’ve pulled the “be all, end all card”. ESPECIALLY when they are dead wrong, either because they are seriously misinformed, or because they like to intentionally bastardize perfectly good movements so that soon the term becomes white noise that people ignore because they hear it irrelevantly so often about non issues that it seems about as special as using the “drive thru”. Using feminism, and one chicken shit anonymous commenters statement on this previous post of mine on saggy boobage as fuel to my fire, let me illustrate my point.
First I’d like to get some definitions out of the way, in case you yourself are not completely clear on what feminism really means because you are so used to people using the term to apply to any damn thing they want that has anything whatsoever to do with women.
1. the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.
2. ( sometimes initial capital letter ) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.
3. feminine character
adjective Sometimes, fem·i·nis·tic.
1. advocating social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.
2. an advocate of such rights
Mi·sog·y·nist [mi-soj-uh-nist, mahy‐]
a person who hates, dislikes, mistrusts, or mistreats women
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Awesome! Now that we have that cleared up, let’s jump right on in. Because seriously? You think I somehow think women are inferior to men because I think they should wear bras, and because seeing swaying, sagging breasts all around town makes me a little nauseous? OK, let’s clear some things up: my post has nothing to do with hating women or not treating women or men equally – if a man has saggy boobs I would most certainly encourage him to find a man bra with lots of support, or at least wear a shirt baggy enough that they aren’t visibly swaying merrily along to the beat while bouncing off your belly button. In fact, if you want women to be treated like the equal partners they should in life, then emphasizing attention on their boobs in any way is not the way to go…. Whether you have a fantastic rack, bra or not, having the girls on display in a way that forces attention onto them, and not, say, your face (or even better, that big beautiful brain of yours) isn’t going to help anyone take you seriously.
Let’s put this another way. Say you’re speaking to a man who is dressed in a nice fitted top, and there’s a counter between you so you can only see him from the waist up… You’ve probably noticed that he is a good looking guy, but you’re actually listening to what he has to say. Now, say he walks around the counter, and you see that his pants are basically skin tight, but that down his right leg there is a very large, very obvious.. Ummmmmm… pole, hanging half way to his knee. Are you seriously trying to tell me you don’t notice it at all? Lol yeah right, as most people would, you’ve looked down, probably gasped in shock, and quickly averted your eyes – having a difficult time looking him directly in his, or in paying any attention to whatever super interesting conversation you had been riveted to like five seconds ago. Now, your attention is focused on not looking down, obviously, but still catching a glimpse without him noticing… cause your brain needs confirmation of what your eyes just saw. You can’t help it, it’s a natural human tendency.
And I would completely 100% protest any piece of clothing that puts such obvious emphasis on any private part belonging to a man: including but not limited to his penis. Like how I hate when men with man boobs, perky or not, decide to wear anything but a baggier shirt that is made from a thicker material. And speedos for men make me giggle and point. Sorry, but if you’re going to wear something (or not wear something) in public, you have to know that people are going to look at you. And not just at your face. This is why we’ve coined the term “a once over” because when you’re meeting someone new, seeing a friend, or waiting at the bus stop when some random person walks by, you’re going to look at them from head to toe and back up again. Period. And you will automatically take inventory of the little details. If your breasts are locked and loaded, and you’re wearing a respectable shirt, I’ll most likely just noticed the color and style of your shirt and whether it goes with your eyes. If you’ve decided to make your breasts a focal point by allowing them to swing free and wild so that every step you take, move you make, and breath you take has them swinging and jiggling in wild abandon, then even if I don’t want to and am not going out of my way to try, I will invariably end up having my attention drawn to the things gesticulating wildly and not in synch in the middle of your body.
I know many people that from time to time do end up going braless, however they all have the personal pride and public decency to make sure that it is not obvious. So, for example, wearing a sweatshirt over your shirt or wearing several layers, the bottom layer being skin tight so to minimize movement and nipplage, or in a dress or sexy cut top when going out, making sure that the cut, fit, and style of the dress and the material still has enough lifting and masking properties that everyone in the room will not be focused on their chest and the full on headlight beams staring straight at them. I’m sorry but it all comes down to this: if you don’t want to be objectified, if you don’t want to be only noticed because of your looks, body, or clothing, then don’t go out of your way to make a spectacle of yourself. Just because you have the right to wear whatever you want doesn’t give you the right to control what other people do. Including look at you, or judge you based on what you do look like. It is not your god given right to walk through life unobserved, nor is it your god given right to control other people’s beliefs and opinions of the things you do do. The only right you do have is to have no harm come to anyone, including yourself, based on those beliefs and opinions.
Now, let’s next address this whole bastardization of misogyny and feminism. Have you ever met a real woman hater? A real person who honestly has no respect for women, who really thinks women aren’t people, should have little to no rights… A person who really feels that the sum of a woman’s value has to do with the sum of her outside parts, and that she is only useful for cooking or sex? Seriously, either you’ve been terribly sheltered, or, as I said in my reply to you, you enjoy feeling like you’re important and stand for something, even though you know little to nothing about what you pretend to stand for. Please do not ruin the fight for our rights, and please do not marginalize the real battle that women go through to be seen as more than what is on the outside, to have more than their beauty appreciated, to have their intelligence and determination and independence be more desirable than a nice rack and legs for miles. If you disagree with my opinion, or think I’m shallow, fine, say that. But don’t hide under the feminism umbrella because you think it’ll strengthen your position.
A woman’s private parts should be just that: private. No random person who has only seen you in public should be able to describe the outline of your snatch, the color of your nipples, or what shape your breasts are in post-baby. Nor should they be able to tell if your upper thighs or midriff have stretch marks, what color your panties are, or whether you wear boy shorts or thongs. Take some pride in modesty and your appearance, and keep the focus where it should be: above the shoulders, between the ears.
We live in a country where basically anything goes wardrobe wise: fine. You’re entitled to wear what you want… A perfect example is man skirts : and I’m entitled to stare at you and make judgments, or just plain dislike what you wear, whether it’s just cause I find it plain off, because it’s distasteful to me, or because it sends out the wrong message, like I’m a skank with no self-respect. You can dislike reality all you want: at the end of the day, it is what it is, human nature is what it is, and by dressing certain ways or engaging in certain behaviors, you objectify yourself whether you mean to or not. What you do with that information is up to you. When I wear a cleavage top or short shorts, how much of a moron would I have to be to assume that I have the right to have men NOT look. Isn’t that the point of putting your body on display?….to have people look? And if a man tells me I look sexy, wouldn’t it be asinine and foolhardy to label said man a misogynist and anti-feminism? I mean seriously, when you put on sexy clothes, or tight clothes, when you make sure certain parts of your body are impossible to miss, what do you think is going to happen? People should walk with their eyes on the ground at all times unless their eyes are locked firmly onto someone else’s? Pffffffttttt please. If you only want to look sexy for you and your partner, do it at home. Cause once you hit the public, you’re fair game.
And I think this post is the perfect place to branch off and discuss another very important topic: not every piece of clothing was made for everybody, or for every circumstance. I’m a firm believer, because I actually love women and want them to never be a public ridicule, that women who don’t have nice legs shouldn’t wear mini skirts (nor should women over the age of 25, unless you are trying to make people respect you less – or you are going to a club of some sort), if your tummy isn’t tight and toned and flat you shouldn’t wear belly tops, and regardless of your weight and shape, you should always dress age and situation appropriate, unless you’re trying to age yourself and draw negative attention – oh and always wear clothes that fit you. Nobody knows what the size tag says but you and your sales lady, and trust me you’ll look a solid 20-40 pounds heavier and so very very unattractive if you sqqquuuuueeeezzzzeee yourself into those jeans that are five sizes too small. Which leads me to my final point, which is to dress size and body type appropriate, for basically the same reasons. Again, not everything was made with every body type in mind, and there are some things that only look good on a size six and under, some things only chicks with a sexy back or an apple bottom bum can pull off, and some things that only a very voluptuous woman could ever look sexy or sharp in. Period. Again, that’s the reality. Sorry if you don’t like it. But if you choose to ignore it, then don’t go crying later that people stare at or mock or judge you. It’s not because they hate women or think your just an object, it’s because you look ridiculous. OK. Now you’ve been warned.
But of course, feel free to TRULY not care what anyone’s opinion is because you are so comfortable and happy with everything about you and how you are, as long as you don’t go crying “anti-feminist!” When someone tells you that halter tops make you look like a line backer, that at your age the girls need a little more support, or that you’ve made yourself look a solid 5 sizes larger by refusing to wear the size that actually FITS you. I’ve been told that cursing is unlady like. “Thankfully”, I have always answered, “I am certainly not a lady”. I’m a grown ass woman and I’ll do as i please. And for that reason, I continue to, unabashedly, curse like a sailor to this day: if I’m anything, it’s certainly not a quitter.
OK, rant done. Oh yeah, p.s. anonymous crusader, get a life?…wait for it…ok NOOOOOWWWWW I’m done. :-D. Well, except for this:
You guys should really check out that man skirt article that is linked above… The article is rather entertaining, but really, more so, you should check out the wack job comments towards the end… Check out his web site too, it explains so very very much!
Anyway, happy Wednesday!
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all feminists want is to not shave there armpits or legs and for it be ok to be sloppy and smelly like men but men are supposed to respect them, and want them and marry them and when they dont and only like the woman who looks and acts like a woman its because their sexist pigs. but there only ending up with the gay man whose looking for a beard because only gays are sexually excited by man like looks and actions. and a woman who knows how to take care of herself and cares enough about her pride and looks and brains and the whole package to make an effort in ALL ways is whats sexy and what being a real woman is about
Lol anonymous poster. While I do find some entertainment in your post and a kernel of truth, I don’t think it’s entirely fair that that’s what all feminists want. I think it’s more accurate to say, which your point illustrates clearly, that some women hide under the feminism blanket and think that it’s a defense or reason for anything you do, as long as you happen to be a woman…
And I also agree with the part where it’s absolutely ridiculous to attack men for having standards and things that they find attractive… and things that they do not. Even these extreme radical so called feminists have things they are and aren’t attracted to- are they being exclusionary sexist pigs because they don’t find your assessment of the situation a turn on, or because they happen to be attracted to a men with certain specific qualities? … yeah, no, of course not… But somehow they don’t see just how unequal they are fighting fit things to be (where men have no free will or rights to opinions or preferences, and they have the right to be worshipped for doing whatever the fuck they want) even though the whole point of feminism was not for women to be in control and men to be submissive, but rather for there to be equality amongst the sexes.
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WHATEVER WHEN WILL YOUR SELF HATRED EVER END???? DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS JUST AS BAD AS DEFINING WOMEN AS ONLY BITCHES OR HOES OR SKANKS WHICH YOU DO ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!! ???????????? DON’T YOU EVERRRRR STOP AND FEEL BAD FOR ALL THE HATE AND LIES YOU SPREAD AND THE AWFUL WAYS YOU TWIST EVERYONE’S WORDS SO THEY SOUND WRONG WHEN THEY ARE RIGHT???????? I READ BOTH POSTS AND SHAME ON YOU FOR YOUR NEVERENDING SMEAR CAMPAIGN AGAINST WOMENS RIGHTS AND DEMOCRACY AS A WHOLE!!!!!!!!!! THAT POOR WOMAN WAS TRYING TO INFORM YOU OF YOUR OWN IGNORANCE AND YOU ARE SO IGNORANT THAT YOU CANNOT SEE THE TRUTH EVEN WHEN ITS BEEN THROWN IN YOUR FACE!!!!!!!!!!!!! FORGET FREE SPEECH, PEOPLE LIKE YOU SHOULD BE BANNED FROM SPEAKING, LET ALONE PUBLISHING WORDS ON THE WORLD WIDE WEB WHERE POOR IMPRESSIONABLE PEOPLE FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD MAYBE POISONED BY YOUR HATEFUL POSTS!!!!!!!! I HOPE YOU ARE STERILE BECAUSE I FEEL SO SORRY FOR ANY POOR LITTLE GIRL WHO WOULD EVER HAVE TO RELY ON YOU FOR GUIDANCE OR ANY POOR LITTLE BOY WHO WOULD USE YOUR INSULANT TRAVESTIES AS FODDER FOR WHAT RESPECTING A WOMAN MEANS!!!!!!!
FOR ALL YOU WHO WANT TO BE REALLY INFORMED PLEASE LOOK AT THIS BLOG, SOMETHING THAT IS ACTUALLY DECENT AND GOOD AND NOT FROM SOME SELF HATING WOMAN LIKE THIS GIRL!!!!!!!!!!! I CAN’T BELIEVE THEY ACTUALLY LET YOU BLOG HERE!!!!!!!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE EVERYONE READ THIS ACTUAL REAL BLOG ON FEMINISM BEFORE HER LIES RUB OFF ON YOU!!!!
Wow. First and foremost, before I even bother trying to get past your second line (and while wondering how I made it through the first one), please in the future try writing your reply to ANY post without your keyboard stuck on capslock. Not only does it make it damn near impossible to read and actually focus on anything you’ve written, but all caps is taken as shouting, and shouting for THAT many sentences, in real life or on the internet, kinda takes any of the emphasis out of anything you’re saying…basically, you seem like you’re just screaming wildly and hysterically for absolutely no reason, and eventually people tune out your message and just more so watch with baited breath for the end of your performance – only hanging in there because they’re pretty sure things are gonna end with a bang.. meaning a trainwreck, with you being the sole victim.
ANYWAY. Let me try and struggle through the rest of your comment without giggling – though I make no promises. You’re pretty hilarious already and I haven’t gotten far at all….Ok. I made it through. Ok, mostly at a brief glance because it was mostly drivel mixed with shock factor. However, I did want to comment on one simple thing first off “INSULANT TRAVESTIES AS FODDER” translates directly to “material used to reduce or prevent the transmission of heat or electricity or sound’s grotesque or debased likeness or imitation as coarse food for livestock”. Now, lets pretend you actually meant INSOLENT (TOTALLY different word there – see, I know where my capslock key is, too!), which would then at least change your definition to something a little closer to appropriate (because insolent means being boldly rude or disrespectful), although in general that little sentence frag there is just a mess…please refrain from using words too big for your IQ in the future…or at least do something you are least likely to screw up, like only use ONE impossible for your little brain to understand but it sounds so cool and sophisticated and adult word per sentence…preferably per paragraph.
SOOOOOOO glad you linked to that blog, dude. I hadn’t found that before, however, at a read over quite a few of those pages, nothing I’ve said or implied or desire from life in any way is anti feminist, and more importantly, because its more closely related to your little diatribe, nor is it filled with hate for anything other than posers, or people who abuse the term, so that the real feminists issues and desires are ignored because freak shows decide to make everything about feminism, and the true issue, equality, gets lost in the mix and suddenly doesn’t even matter. You pseudo fake ass feminists want all the power and the control, and wanna destroy the men because all the are good for is sperm donation…and yet you don’t really understand that any true feminist is either appalled right now, or is consistently tossing and turning in their grave in disgust of what complete dicks you people are.
Hmmm…yeah, k, done with you now, GiGi pie. Go flip yourself the bird as you tell yourself to have a great day…don’t worry, don’t be shy…you deserve it!
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Hahahahaha! Oh wow…some of these ppl are hilarious!! I didn’t have the patience to read all the way through that GiGi comment though, but the beginning was funny. Lol
Now…on to more important things:
First of all, I am proud of my breasts! I have no problem wearing a low cut shirt with my pushup bra.BUT…. I would by no means have the nerve to complain about ppl looking when I do!
I wouldn’t consider myself a feminist, I just believe in equality for everyone, regardless of sex, race, orientation, etc.
And I must disagree on the no mini skirts after 25 years old! :p
That being said…there is a time and a place for low cut shirts with pushup bras and miniskirts…not work, not playdates, not church…etc.
And I would NEVER wear a tummy bearing shirt at this point, cuz it is not my most flattering body part…..but I DO occasionally wear the leg and booby bearing outfits, because those are my best assets!
Love the post…and the entertaining comments…hahaha 😀
Yes.. We all know you’ll disagree to the ban of mini skirts at any age… But, having a dancers legs helps your cause 😉
Of course, this is my point though.. You know when you go outside people will see you and evaluate you based on what you look like… And you know when you go out when want to feel and look at your personal best.. Not because if you look your personal best, and look put together you don’t feel self conscious, and you personally feel respectable.
And if you want to live counter culture, if you want to flaunt parts of your body, and you know that culturally it’s going to be against the norm, it’s going to draw attention. And, like it or not, people are judging you all the time, especially when you stand out. You don’t have to care.. But if you do, please don’t have the nerve to tell me I have to change my personal views. If you care so much what others think and are self conscious, then swim with the stream, not against the current
It is so nice to see someone talk intelligently about feminism, the current crop of feminist’s (feminazi’s) just don’t seem to understand how much damage they are actually doing to the cause. It doesn’t help that modern day media tends to focus more on what sells, goes viral or gets the most hits so what we see most is the extremist morons at both ends of the feminist/anti-feminist spectrum. The GiGi’s of the movement that scream, yell and use shaming tactics to bully people instead of using intelligence and common sense.