Category: Social Commentary

Better Get Them Flakes Off Ya Shoulders!

August 22, 2011August 22, 2011 · Leave a comment ·

And no, I don’t mean dandruff (although, quite frankly, if your shoulders are covered in dandruff, it still isn’t a good look, and you might wanna do something about that..I hear head and shoulders is a cheap and efficient solution *wink wink*). I’m talking about flaky friends. You know the type: always make plans with you and then cancel last second, never anywhere to be found when you need them, but yet clearly they do actually remember your number because you’re the first person they call when they want or need something.

I have a few of these flaky friends. And as evil as this might sound, I think its just about time that I finally do brush the flakes out of my life: it ain’t cute, it feels crummy as hell to be flaked on all the time, and as I always say, negativity can, and always does, breed more negativity. The sad thing is, before we come to the realization that these friends are (more…)

Bitch-ass-ness (the art of being a little bitch)

July 18, 2011 · 4 Comments ·

BITCHASSNESS: DEFINITIONS

newly discovered disease running rampant, especially in the black community. symptoms include:

1.punkish tendencies

2. cattiness, such as talking behind someone’s back

3. thinking highly of yourself, but only expressing it under your breath

4.claiming “hurt feelings” when you are called out on your bullshit

Overall stank actions towards others through words, facial expressions, and/or song. Symptoms include: thinking your better than (more…)

So-Called Baby Brain

May 5, 2011May 5, 2011 · 2 Comments ·

I am SOOO glad I don’t have kids, just for the fact that I don’t ever wanna be one of the women that
enjoys things like that lol

Yes…that is a quote said by ME lol. And don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I don’t EVER want to have children and a family of my own, or that I hate children or..I don’t know, whatever other negative connotation you could have possibly gotten from that comment. Ok, lets pause for 10 seconds, and I’ll give you a brief background so you’ll get where I’m coming from…

1. I don’t have that many female friends, on account of the fact that I find most women I encounter to be (more…)

The Fallacy of Jealousy

February 8, 2011 · 4 Comments ·

My life in the past several months has been more than hectic, and as I said before I’ve got a LOT to share with you. I’ve sat pondering for several weeks trying to come up with my debut topic…all to no avail. I mean, after leaving the blogging world for such a long time, I can’t just come back with some wishy-washy white toast topic. Nor can I just assault your moralities and senses with another delicious taste of Ruby Ranting. And then, suddenly, out of nowhere I remembered a conversation I had with a friend recently. And for some reason, it was bugging the living crap outta me. I couldn’t put my finger on it until just now (it’s almost 3AM right now), and as soon as I realized just where the flaw in my friends reasoning was, and just how often I had encountered similar nonsensical blathering over the past few months, I decided that this was it. I was gonna write about it, and NOW. As I’m sure you figured out from the title, this post is all about jealousy, and the fallacious reasoning people who hide behind their jealousy use to avoid actually manning up and taking responsibility for themselves and their positions in life. (more…)

What A Man Wants; What A Girl Needs

September 15, 2010 · 3 Comments ·

I think there are some women out there who have the WRONG idea when it comes to what men want out of them and a relationship. Or maybe I should instead phrase this as, “what a man wants from a woman and a relationship that will make him commit and ultimately want to be in it (and with her) for the long haul”. Now, don’t get me wrong here. I do not claim to be a man, or such an expert on men that I can predict or tell you EVERYTHING that they want. Nor do I claim that each and every man is the same and that therefore there is some basic list of secrets that, once known, can hook any man to a woman for life. But I think there is one basic aspect that EVERY man, no matter who they are, ultimately is looking for from a woman and a long term relationship (whether or not they know it), and that any woman who can get this one little thing (more…)

Victim Mentality

August 31, 2010 · 5 Comments ·

Victim mentality: it’s always someone else’s fault. I was watching Intervention last night when a concerned family member of an addict said this. It struck me as deeply insightful and terribly moving. Not because I’ve never heard the general thought or idea before. I mean, as a psych major we talk about things like Learned Helplessness and self-empowerment all the time. I have, on more than one occasion, reminded a friend that the whole world isn’t against them, and that if they choose to see the world as a universal whole that is always conspiring to screw them over then that is exactly what they’ll find. But I don’t know…I guess maybe it’s the person and the situation that this was spoken about that really made the difference.

Let me explain. You see, the addict this was said about is (more…)

Ruby Rant: Don’t Waste My $%#@^&@@&$% Time

August 18, 2010August 18, 2010 · 3 Comments ·

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again…I’ve accepted that the world doesn’t revolve around me. And if it doesn’t revolve around me, it sure as hell doesn’t revolve around you. I don’t know why this concept is so difficult for people to understand, to wrap their minds around. You should always make yourself a priority, of course. Take care of you and what’s important to you, etc. etc.: but that DOESN’T mean the cost of your happiness should be at the expense of someone else. And just because you’re not stealing from someone, or exploiting them, or causing some kind of bodily harm to them doesn’t mean you’re in the clear. Because, honestly, just like your (more…)